Letter to My Son

Son, before I met you my world was so different and I couldn’t even focus on how to raise someone special in my life. Life was so boring without you, dreams and visions collides on my face not knowing what to adhere to.

Youth life is so cool but it has its own side effects. I tried to be a better young man, I tried to be better than my friends, I tried to be better than my siblings, I tried to be the best in the society but the more I tried, the more I got frustration and setbacks. My world was like facing the world full of pepper but I didn’t gave up, I simply change my motivation.

You see Son, life is not about being the best or better than others, life is simply being you and trying to help others achieve their goals and dreams. If you strive to be better than others, you will find yourself competing with people who have lost their hopes and they are leaving on day by day basis, they just want something to keep them going.

This world is not for competition, this one is all about being you, being a mirror to the society, being a reflection of goodness, love and future.

As I remember when I was in my high school, I tried to compete with the top students in my class, but the more I compete with them, the more I failed. Yes, it was a good thing to make effort to be like them but I wrongly set my priorities. You see Son, being top at the class doesn’t mean you will be successful but being you and finding yourself is the most important thing. So after trying and trying and trying, I realized competing with my fellow students it’s not a way to success but the true way to success is doing things with your own pace. I changed my tactics and start to focus in class, staying positive, doing my assignments, studying where I faced challenged the most among others and with time I found myself in the positive place again. Striving to be like the top students it’s not the best idea but create your own perfect way of being the best.

In this world, competition doesn’t matter but following your true self does matter. You see, the more you make effort to compete with others, the more you lose your destiny. You cannot be like others, you cannot be like anyone else in this world, ‘cause everyone is unique and talented differently, so if you want to win, set your own goals, write down your targets, listen to your heart, hold to your dreams, write them down in your heart and follow them.

Let your destiny leads you but not the society, let your hopes shape your future but not you failures or competitions. Everyone is born to win, but winners are as a result of staying focus and aiming what their future holds.

Son, hear me well. Am not saying competition is a doom to be the best, but competition will always drag you away from your ideal destiny. You see when you compete with the society, you will be like them, when you compete with your friends you will be like them, when you compete with your siblings you will be like them but, basically what am trying to say is; stay focus on your line, gather information and follow your heart. It will lead you to your destiny and above all never forget to pray.

Lastly, learn to have a good heart, the world sometimes hurts the good hearted people but don’t let the world discourage you, to find a good hearted person it’s so rarely in the society right now but always thrive to have good heart, a caring heart, a heart full of compassion and love; having this you will create your own happy-land and nothing will drag you down, instead you will help the society to be true to themselves.

And don’t let this three words depart from you, FAITH, HOPE and LOVE. It is the basic foundation of better living. I pray to God to help you find your destiny, to guide you towards your destiny, to shape your destiny and to protect your destiny as you grow old.

Son, you are the best and perfect gift that has ever happened to me!

God bless you and give you peace and keep you safe.

GOD OF THE STORM

“Oh Lord!” Am sure this is the phrase that comes out of many people’s mouth wondering what could have gone wrong that ushered the world into one of hell’s gate called “COVID-19”. It has separated families from loved ones, friends from friends, work colleagues from work colleagues and many others unmentioned, but in all of these it makes the world to wonder if this is a result of our ignorance or its just another punishment like the days of Moses, Noah or Lot. What could it be?

Friends, don’t be discouraged ’cause in all of these… God is not deaf or blind, He is in control and what I know He never disappoint or come late. Do you remember Lazarus? His family, friends and community gave up on him and they were ready to put him six foot under and forget him despised the love they had for him and forgetting quickly that Lazarus was walking closely with Jesus Who is the God of the storm they were facing but alas! after four days, Christ arrived and beat all the odds and called out Lazarus from realms of shadow of death back to the living, He was just on time.

And now it seemed liked everything is going six feet under, all hope is gone, everyone is fighting to have something just to carry-on throughout the day with fear of tomorrow but today is the day that I want to assure you, no matter the circumstances that is revolving around you, never give up on hope, faith and love. These three things are the core center piece of our restoration; Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. So let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future; Faith gives you an inner strength and a sense of balance and perspective in life, faith and prayer are the vitamins of the soul; man cannot live in health without them and therefore faith is the very first thing you should pack in a hope chest; Love has a quality that it becomes stronger as the time passes, love makes all things easy hence never procrastinate in showing love, don’t delay, don’t put it off, do it now! The more we love, the more love we have to offer. So it is with God’s love for us, it is inexhaustible. The overriding character trait of Jesus is love, and the entire Gospel story is woven with love. Sometimes it’s not easy, and oftentimes it requires sacrifice, but it’s when we love that we are the most like Jesus.

“Faith, Hope and Love“

WHAT GOD SAYS ABOUT TATTOOS

Holiness is not legalism

For many years people have confused biblical holiness with a long list of rules to follow. The idea of “holiness” comesbecame not smoking, not drinking, not cussing, not dancing, not playing cards, not going to parties, not wearing pretty clothes, not wearing any makeup, no jewelry, not having a nice hairstyle and more. You had to cut or not cut your hair depending on which brand or religion you followed, and you definitely couldn’t have a tattoo or, if you’re a man, put an earring in your ear! That kind of behavior would just put the religious people over the edge!

But did you know that in Isaiah 44:5 (AMPC), it says, One will say, I am the Lord’s; and another one will write [even brand or tattoo] upon his hand, I am the Lords…?

In Isaiah 49, it says that God has a picture of you tattooed on the palm of his hand. How cool is that? If I got a tattoo, I would get one just to make religious demons mad. For years I lived in so much bondage from legalism. Everything about legalism is something you can’t do. But let me tell you something, it is not boring to serve Christ. It is so much fun, and there is so much you can do. And not only that, you can enjoy all of it!

It comes down to your heart

Leviticus 19:28 says You shall not make any cuts on your body [in mourning] for the dead, nor make any tattoo marks on yourselves; I am the Lord. In other scriptures, God punished the Israelites for wearing earrings because they were doing it at a feast to the idol, Baal. But in Ezekiel 16:11-12, there was a big feast, and God put earrings on everyone and even nose rings.

So, what’s the difference? True biblical holiness is all about your motive and why you’re doing things. It’s being different from the world and honoring God above all else…but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a little fun!

Why in the world would we think that God is colorless and boring and wants everything to be just a bunch of rules and regulations? Let me tell you something, the Bible says that God sits in the heavens and laughs, and He put a laugh in every one of us because He expects us to use it. We need to realize that we’re the billboard for God. People so desperately want to be happy, and they need to see that in us. They don’t need a bunch of people calling themselves Christians who look like they’ve been baptized in prune juice! Pursue holiness, stop looking at what everyone else is doing and go out and enjoy life…maybe even get a tattoo while you’re at it!

(Written by Joyce Meyer)

https://joycemeyer.org/everydayanswers/ea-teachings/what-god-says-about-tattoos

HOW TO HANDLE HEARTBREAK

God is ready to heal your broken-heart but you need to give Him all the pieces. You cannot trust God halfway, you need to trust Him all the way. And every piece of our brokenhearted needs to be surrendered to God for total healing.

Psalms 34:18, 147:3

Healing is a process and it usually takes time. Psalms 147:3, paints a picture of God’s Healing hands completing the process of healing in our heart. So today if your heart is a million pieces, maybe nobody around you even knows what you are going through… I think the question is, will you choose to trust God with the broken pieces of your heart. Because it might not have been your choice that your heart is broken, but now that you are in a place where your life wasn’t intended to be, you now have a choice of what you will do from here onwards.

Choices to make with heart-break

When God was speaking to Israel people He actually gave them a choice, to choose life or death.. But He went ahead and gave them the answer to choose life because He is the best teacher.

a. Recognize or Rationalize.

Many people are suffering from heartbreak but when you encounter them and ask how they are, they will say am good but in realities they are hiding their feelings. Because they think, when avoiding problems, they will be able to get rid of that problem. Avoiding something doesn’t actually means it will stop that something to be there. The right thing to do is actually to face your problem and go through it. You see if you never healed from what hurts you, you will bleed on people who never cut you. Rationalize is defending something that hurts you. Yeah, I cut myself because I was playing with a knife… What is that… Instead of you handling it and accepting it, you are feeling that you deserve that hurt, cut or pain.

CHOOSE TO RECOGNIZE that you have pain.

b. Resolve or resign.

Resolve is a firm commitment to a chosen path, that you look at the path before your healing that God has put in from of you. That am going to choose to stick with it even if I don’t see things changing over a night. Complete healing is not a quick fix, it’s choosing to trust God no matter what as He thoroughly heals your heart.

CHOOSE TO RESOLVE.

c. Rebuild or React.

One of the greatest mistakes people make is that they get out of one relationship and their heart is broken and the immediate reaction is let me get into another relationship. That means you are reacting and not rebuilding. That’s means you will be going to drama to drama to drama, pain to pain to pain, trial to trial to trial. If you get out of relationship, restrict yourself, let yourself heals and take some time to rebuild yourself. Like going back to God’s word. Proverbs 4:23.

CHOOSE TO REBUILD.

d. Restore or Relapse.

You have a choice to entrust your life to the hands of God, that even when you don’t see Him binding your wounds, you trust Him He is doing what He promised. Or you can choose to trust yourself with the pieces of your brokenhearted, try to pull things together and fall back in the pit again and again, relapsing back to your previous circumstance over and over again.

CHOOSE TO RESTORE

Conclusion

Don’t let the person who didn’t love you stop you from meeting the person who will love you.